“The future for me is already a thing of the past –
You were my first love and you will be my last”
― Bob Dylan, Bob Dylan – Love and Theft: Piano/Vocal/Guitar
There is a fever, a passion, an overwhelming and world-destroying power that comes with that first spark of love that enters our lives. It becomes all-consuming, and will leave us elated, destroyed, exalted, and devastated in equal measure in the wake of its passing. First Love Day celebrates this most formative and powerful event in our lives, for all its goods and ills.
History of First Love Day
We’ve all been there, experiencing our very first love. The experience awakens a part of us we didn’t even know was sleeping, and grows rapidly to encompass every part of us, changing our inner emotional landscape with every touch of its ever-growing vines. The future becomes in equal parts clear and cloudy as we see nothing else but a life with the subject of our first love, but the specifics of that future are an ever-bubbling dreamscape of hopes and fears mixed in equal measure. Sadly first love rarely lasts for both parties, and inevitably one will see the separation begin to form as each of these new traveler’s sets off on their own path.
Each will remember the other, through time untold, and each will measure every future love, for better or ill, against that first monumental moment when our heart exploded into fearful, fitful, exalted love for the first time. In time the chasm deep wounds of that parting will heal, though perhaps an old ache combined with a strange fondness will persist ever after. Some of us would never experience that again, others seek for the rest of their lives to grasp it one more time, that rapture of the first love.
How To Celebrate First Love Day
First Love Day is best celebrated through that old standby, nostalgia. Remember the life you shared together, that brief but bright spark of a moment, and how it utterly changed you both. If you’re still in touch drop them a line of ‘remember when’, or maybe just go through old photos and journals to remember what that moment felt like. Be warned, however, First Love Day can serve as a simple wander down memory lane, or it can be a reality check moment where you look at your present life and realize, perhaps, it’s not all it could be.